“A good game gives us meaningful accomplishment – clear achievement that we don’t necessarily get from real life. In a game, you’ve beaten level four, the boss monster is dead, you have a badge, and now you have a super laser sword. Real life isn’t like that, right?”
– Jesse Schell
This is not only a rather difficult question to answer but also a hard decision to make. Earlier we’ve discussed whether or not it’s good to be friends with your boss; however, what if it was your long time friend whom you’ve known for 10 years or more that made you a job offer, would it be okay? To find out, let us make a tally board of the pros and cons of this professional/personal relationship mixed in the job description.
Pro A: Your Boss Friend Already Knows your Strengths and Abilities
Before I go any further, let me just say that if you think that taking a job offer from your friend, who may become your boss soon, is some kind of charity, then you must turn it down immediately. It won’t do you any good if your ego gets in the way, but this is actually a good opportunity if you think it through. Our economy (as well as those of other countries) has rendered tens of thousands of people on the unemployed list and, in fact, you should consider yourself to be lucky to get a job offer from your personal friend no less.
Con A: You may or may not get Special Treatment
Depending on how close your relationship as a friend or how mature your friend boss is, then you can expect the level of special treatment that comes with it. But make sure that you check your behavior at all times, because you know your friend didn’t became a boss without hard work and dedication. As a rule of thumb, I’d advise you to be super professional while on the job as this is like a “thank you” gesture for him or her hiring you for the job.
Pro B: Ease of Communication
Being friends for years will have the benefit of ease of communication and you’ll hardly find any awkward moments talking to your boss friend for any work-related topics. You may even be able to give him or her sound advice on a few things and he/she will appreciate you for it! You might even be the “go-to” person for your co-workers in case they have something important to relay to the boss, but are shy to do it.
Con B: Some Topics, Thoughts and Words might get in the Way
Your boss may not be the best person to discuss hard topics about the job after your shift like you used to talk to him/her when you had not yet worked for the guy/gal. I mean, what are you going to say to him or her? That you had a bad day at work, because your boss sent you an email telling you that you didn’t do a good enough job? Yeah, that will really end well with the both of you, right? Wrong! You probably need to adjust your personal conversations so as not to offend your boss, or just play subtle politics in your conversations.
Pro C: You’ll be well Appreciated
Perhaps some days your boss friend will ask you for advice and sometimes you might feel obliged to give him/her your opinions on critical business decisions, because you care so much about your friend. You will be praised, commended and might even get a raise, bonus or promotion for it; certainly your friend did not hire someone who just likes to push some papers at the office, so you can expect a reward for your inputs.
Con C: It Doesn’t Mean that you’re Equals
However, at the end of it all, your boss friend is in charge of the company and will decide as he/she thinks fit. You’re going to have to swallow your pride or that sense of care if in case he/she will turn down your advice no matter how important you think it is. Remember not to overstep your boundaries and treat your boss friend, well, as your boss. It’s actually an honor to be asked for advice by someone who ranks higher than you in the office hierarchy, so don’t feel bad or make it too personal.